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Becoming An Ally to the Gender-Expansive Child

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When Anna Bianchi’s grandchild asked, “Nanny, you do know I’m a girl, don’t you?”, Anna recognised this as a pivotal, and daunting, moment in their relationship. She knew that to answer her grandchild, who had been assigned male at birth, her own attitudes, assumptions and beliefs about gender would need to be examined.

With reassuring honesty and openness, Anna draws deeply on four areas: her own experience, current research, interviews with children and their families, and a discussion of power, both in society and between children and adults. She shows how the inner journey of the adult inevitably impacts on the outer journey of the child and, given the significance of this, offers a step-by-step guide to become an ally to the gender-expansive child.

For anyone eager to understand their child’s gender experience, or to learn how best to accept, support and protect them, this book will provide knowledge, reassurance and the confidence to do so.

Becoming An Ally to the Gender-Expansive Child is based on the author's experience caring for her grandchild. As such, she provides a much needed perspective on an ally's journey through the Gender Matrix. Guided by her own family's process, and by the love for her grandchild, Bianchi gently coaches others to challenge their own gender assumptions, moving not only through acceptance, but towards an actual social transformation

Anna Bianchi has a background in social work, personal development and training and facilitation work.

Becoming An Ally to the Gender-Expansive Child. 248 pages. Paperback.

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Customer Reviews (5.0 / 5 · 5 reviews)

Nicholas ★★★★★

I've read a few books on supporting trans kids, but this one actually walks you through the hard conversations instead of just theory. The way Bianchi uses her own moments with her grandchild makes it feel less like a manual and more like sitting with someone who's been there. I finished it in two e

Ruby R. ★★★★★

The moment where the grandchild asks "Nanny, you do know I'm a girl, don't you?" hit me harder than I expected, because my own kid asked something similar last year. Bianchi walks through that conversation without flinching or lecturing, which made the whole book feel like a real person talking inst

Natalie H. ★★★★★

I was nervous this book would feel preachy, but the author's personal framing makes it incredibly approachable for older relatives. It walks you through those first conversations without talking down to you, and I found myself reflecting on my own responses long after finishing each chapter. An impo