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Coming Out Like a Porn Star

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This one-of-a-kind book shares intimate personal stories of porn performers “coming out” to family, friends, partners, lovers, and community.

It’s a collection of personal stories from porn stars about how they got in the biz, how it has effected the way they interact with their family, friends, partners, communities and more. The contributors represent a diverse range of races, ethnicities and genders.

The sex industry is such an interesting topic, especially when you delve further into it’s community and how the people involved often find their best support system there. If you’ve got a favorite porn star, their story just might be here!

Paperback. 310 Pages.

The contributors represent a wide range of races, ethnicities, and genders. They include Joanna Angel, Annie Sprinkle, Betty Blac, Nina Hartley, Candida Royalle, Conner Habib, Dale Cooper, Christopher Zeischegg, Cindy Gallop, Drew DeVeaux, Erika Lust, Gala Vanting, Casey Calvert, Lorelei Lee, Stoya, Ignacio Rivera AKA Papí Coxxx, and many others.

“This revealing, moving, and often surprising collection lets you go deep inside the lives of generations of porn stars and explicit performers. It’s an absolute must-read for anyone interested in sex industry politics, sex-positive culture, and porn studies––and for anyone whose friend, lover, or family member has taken their pants off in front of a camera. One after the other, these memoirs add up to a powerful, if ironic, conclusion: Porn stigma is the biggest problem many adult performers face, and it is at least as likely to come from our feminist moms as from prudish conservatives. Once you’ve heard the clear, articulate voices of these porn stars, you’ll never look at a sex movie, or the people who make it happen, the same way again.” ― Carol Queen, PhD Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture

“Finally – a collection of essays bold enough to embrace – and express – the complexities and contradictions of performing sex. With uncompromising thought and lucid prose, Lee and fellow contributors rewrite the public record.” ― Nichi Hodgson, author of Bound To You

Jiz Lee is a genderqueer performer who built a name in the adult industry by presenting their genuine pleasure and unique gender expression on camera. Jiz has worked in over 200 projects spanning five countries within indie, queer, and mainstream adult genres. Jiz has written on gender and porn in The Feminist Porn Book, and has taught queer sex workshops. Ever fascinated by the radical potential of sex, love, and art, Jiz blogs at JizLee.com.

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Customer Reviews (5.0 / 5 · 3 reviews)

Scarlett F. ★★★★★

I wasn’t sure what to expect from a book of essays by adult performers, but the intimacy of these stories caught me off guard in the best way. The way each person navigates telling their family and partners feels so raw and specific, I found myself tearing up more than once. It’s the kind of read th

Alexander ★★★★★

The collection of coming out stories is so raw and real, I laughed and cried multiple times while reading. Each performer’s experience feels completely different from the last, which makes you realize there’s no one “right” way to do it.

Stella L. ★★★★★

I’ve never read a book quite like this—the raw, honest stories from porn stars about coming out really made me feel seen. It’s refreshing to hear such varied experiences, from family reactions to partner dynamics, all in their own words. Definitely a page-turner that changed how I think about openne