Learning Good Consent

How can we heal from trauma? How can we support the survivors in our lives? How can we build relationships in an ethical way? This book may not offer all the answers, but it opens up discussions and offers a good place to start.

Learning Good Consent is a collection of multiple works by multiple authors on the topic of support for survivors of trauma, collected and edited by Cindy Crabb.

Cindy Crabb provides a DIY tour of the promise and perils of sexual relationships in Learning Good Consent. Building ethical relationships is one of the most important things we can do, but sex, consent, abuse, and support can get complicated. This collection is an indespensible guide to both preventing sexual violence and helping its survivors to heal. Includes a foreward by Kiyomi Fujikawa and Jenna Peters-Golden.

"Whether or not you think you need it, whether or not you're a survivor, or dating a survivor, or even having sex, you would probably benefit from reading this book. And the people you choose to be intimate with will probably thank you for making their safety a priority." —Nomy Lamm, SINS INVALID (in Feminist Review)

"Learning Good Consent ... offers powerful, complicated information (instead of shallow questions and uncomplicated answers). This book speaks to those who are unlearning silence as a safety/communication strategy." —Jen Cross, WritingOurselvesWhole.org (in make/shift)

"Essential reading." —Colin Atrophy Hagendorf, Support New York, and author of Slice Harvester

"What this book does is to stress consent: not 'no means no,' or even 'yes means yes,' but 'Do you want me to stay here with you?' 'Are you here?' 'I thought I wanted this, but I'm not sure now.' 'Do you think we should take this farther?' I'm moved that this book is here. It matters." —Alison Piepmeier, author of Girl Zines: Making Media, Doing Feminism

About the Author

Cindy Crabb is an author of the influential, feminist, autobiographical zine Doris, which has been anthologized into two books; The Encyclopedia of Doris: Stories, Essays and Interviews and Doris: An Anthology, 1991–2001. Her work has appeared in numerous books and magazines, including: The Riot Grrrl Collection; Stay Solid! A Radical Handbook for Youth; Girl Zines: Making Media, Doing Feminism; and We Don't Need Another Wave: Dispatches from the Next Generation of Feminists.