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Love In A F*cked-Up World by Dean Spade

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In this inspiring self-help handbook, a trans activist dares us to be the change we want to see—both out in the world, and amongst our closest connections.

Lifelong activist and educator Dean Spade dares us to decide that our interpersonal actions are not separate from our politics of liberation and resistance. Many activist projects and resistance groups fall apart because people treat each other poorly, trying desperately to live out the cultural myths about dating and relationships that we are fed from an early age. 

How do we divest from the idea that one romantic partner will be the solution to all our problems? How do we bring our best thinking about freedom and justice into step with our desires for healing and connection?  

Love in a F*cked-Up World is a resounding call to action and a practical manifesto for how to combat cultural scripts and take our relationships into our own hands, preparing us for the work of changing the world. 

Softcover. 329 Pages. 

About the Author:

Dean Spade is the author of Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics, and the Limits of Law and Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During This Crisis (and the next). He has worked for twenty-five years as a leading voice for trans liberation, prison abolition, and mutual aid, and has been interviewed by Bloomberg TV, Democracy Now, the Nation, the Getting Curious with Jonathan Van Ness podcast, and countless other media outlets. He teaches at the Seattle University School of Law. Find him at deanspade.net.

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Customer Reviews (5.0 / 5 · 2 reviews)

John ★★★★★

Dean Spade's approach in this book feels refreshingly direct—it's not just theory but actual strategies for applying mutual aid in daily life. I've already started using the framework to rethink how I show up for my friends and community. It's the kind of read that leaves you both challenged and hop

Ruby ★★★★★

Finally, a self-help book that actually reckons with both systemic oppression and personal healing. Dean Spade’s writing is direct and vulnerable, and the chapter on building accountability in friendships really stuck with me.