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The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend is My Girlfriend by Maddy Court

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"Wroten’s wonderfully whimsical illustrations enliven each scenario with a loose, energetic line and limited color palette that lends the page a Risograph print style. It’s always easier to give advice than to take it, but heartsick or confused daters may find exactly the support they need in this compassionate volume."
—Publishers Weekly

Fix yourself a cup of non-caffeinated herbal tea and prepare to laugh, cry, reminisce, and feel your feelings as you read through these quintessentially queer dating dilemmas.

In The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend, advice columnist Maddy Court (a.k.a. Xena Worrier Princess) answers anonymous queries from lesbian, bisexual, and queer women and people of marginalized genders.

Illustrated by comics artist Kelsey Wroten and based on Court's viral zine of the same name, this book features never-before-published letters and responses about first loves, heartbreak, coming out, and queer friendship—all answered with the warmth and honesty of the gay big sister you wish you had.

  • BY QUEERS, FOR QUEERS: This book was written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders. The questions reflect real experiences that aren't often represented in the media, and the answers offer an important reminder that loving ourselves takes patience, effort, and the support of our friends and communities.
  • EXCITING DEBUT AUTHOR: In 2018, Maddy Court made the leap from creating niche lesbian memes on Instagram to writing and distributing a series of zines. Never preachy or dismissive, Court offers advice that is sympathetic and straightforward—it's equal parts refreshing vulnerability and remarkable wisdom.
  • GORGEOUS ILLUSTRATION: Kelsey Wroten's art brings the letters to life, immersing the reader in all the joys and disappointments of the contributors who wrote in from all over the world. In addition to the traditional illustrations, each chapter features a paneled mini-comic that speaks to the different themes.
  • AMAZING GUEST EXPERTS: Because one queer cannot possible hold all the answers, The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend also includes advice from an incredible roster of guest experts. Author and comedian Samantha Irby; musicians JD Samson and Ellen Kempner; and writers and activists Tyler Ford, Kalyn Heffernan, Lola Pellegrino, and Mey Rude all tackle questions on long-distance breakups, jealousy, love triangles, making friends, and more.

Perfect for:

  • Lesbian, bisexual, and queer women and people of marginalized genders with questions about dating, friendship, and life
  • Fans of the Ex-Girlfriend zine series and followers of @Xenaworrierprincess
  • Fans of Kelsey Wroten's graphic novels and art

Paperback, 168 Pages

About The Author

Maddy Court is a writer and gardener from Appleton, Wisconsin. She has a pit bull named Louis and a closet full of warm weather denim. This is her first book.

Kelsey Wroten is an illustrator and comics artist living in Brooklyn, New York. In her downtime, she enjoys pop-punk, romance novels, and hanging out with her pet ball python, Jules. She is the author of the graphic novel Cannonball.

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Customer Reviews (5.0 / 5 · 3 reviews)

Olivia P. ★★★★★

The illustrations really make this advice book pop — that loose, energetic line style gives each page a cool, almost zine-like feel. I’ve already read through half of it and the advice is surprisingly thoughtful for such a fun format.

David ★★★★★

I was a little nervous about buying an advice book, but the loose, energetic line art makes each page feel like a zine from a friend. The limited color palette gives it that cool Risograph print vibe, and the advice itself is surprisingly down-to-earth and funny.

James P. ★★★★★

The whimsical illustrations with that Risograph print style are exactly what drew me in, and they make every page feel like a little art piece. I picked it up for a friend going through a messy situation and ended up reading half of it myself before handing it over.