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The High Conflict Couple by Alan E. Fruzzetti

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The High-Conflict Couple adapts the powerful techniques of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) into skills you can use to tame out-of-control emotions that flare up in your relationship. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you'll learn how to deescalate angry situations before they have a chance to explode into destructive fights. Other approaches will help you disclose your fears, longings, and other vulnerabilities to your partner and validate his or her experiences in return. You'll discover ways to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and to find true acceptance and closeness with the person you love the most.

This book has been awarded The Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Seal of Merit — an award bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives.

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Customer Reviews (5.0 / 5 · 3 reviews)

Elizabeth ★★★★★

The DBT-based skills in this book are surprisingly practical—I already used the "opposite action" technique during an argument and it actually helped us cool down. The exercises feel doable, not like homework.

James E. ★★★★★

I’ve been using the emotion-regulation skills with my partner for just two weeks, and our blowups are already shorter and less intense. The DBT exercises are practical, not just theory, and the breathing strategies actually calm me down mid-argument.

Violet ★★★★★

The DBT techniques in this book are finally helping me manage those explosive arguments with my partner, especially the sections on validating emotions without escalating. It’s practical and direct, not just theory.