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The New Topping Book

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by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy

Two decades ago, this book began teaching tens of thousands of people the joyous arts of BDSM topping and bottoming – not just “how-to,” but “why-to”… the insider details of emotional support and ethical interaction during kinky play.

Since then, the growing popularity of BDSM, and the blossoming of the Internet as a source of information and connection, have created a whole new universe of possibilities for players.

Now, the completely updated revised New Topping Book gives even more insights and ideas, updated for a new millennium, about how to be a successful, popular player!

Tens of thousands have learned the emotional and ethical skills of BDSM topping from the first Topping Book. Now, in addition to the sage advice and good humor that made the first edition a classic, the authors tackle some of the issues that have come up for tops in the last six years: on-line domination, the challenges and rewards of lifestyle relationships, ensuring our own and our partners safety, and more.

200 pages

"Easton and Hardy tackle the Top... and bring that elusive critter down neatly and with a certain flair. This is good stuff, important stuff... an excellent guide to topping, both for the rank novice and for the player who just wants words to put to all the thoughts and feelings that have resisted categorization." - Laura Antoniou, Sandmutopian Guardian

Dossie Easton is a licensed Marriage, Family and Child Counselor who specializes in the concerns of people with alternative sexualities. A lesbian bottom, she has been active in the S/M scene since the early 1960s.

Janet W. Hardy is a writer and sex educator, and founder of Greenery Press. She is also published as Catherine A. Liszt and Lady Green. She is an inductee of the Society of Janus Hall of Fame. Janet is the author and co-author of 11 books about relationships and sexuality. These books include “The Ethical Slut,” "The New Bottoming Book," "The Sexually Dominant Woman," and "Impervious: Confessions of a Semi-Retired Deviant." She has traveled the world as a speaker and teacher on topics ranging from ethical multi-partner relationships to erotic spanking and beyond.

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Customer Reviews (5.0 / 5 · 2 reviews)

Hannah X. ★★★★★

I've been practicing kink for years but still found the "why-to" insights in this book completely eye-opening, especially the chapter on negotiating scenes with clear boundaries. The writing feels like two experienced friends sharing real wisdom rather than a dry manual.

William ★★★★★

Finally, a guide that explains both the practical how-to and the emotional why-to behind topping and bottoming. The insider details on negotiating scenes made me feel way more confident with my partner.