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“So while the assumption when I was born was that I was or would grow up to be a neurotypical heterosexual boy, that whole idea didn’t really pan out long term.”

In this candid, first-of-its-kind memoir, Laura Kate Dale recounts what life is like growing up as a gay trans woman on the autism spectrum. From struggling with sensory processing, managing socially demanding situations and learning social cues and feminine presentation, through to coming out as trans during an autistic meltdown, Laura draws on her personal experiences from life prior to transition and diagnosis, and moving on to the years of self-discovery, to give a unique insight into the nuances of sexuality, gender and autism, and how they intersect.

Charting the ups and downs of being autistic and on the LGBT spectrum with searing honesty and humour, this is an empowering, life-affirming read for anyone who’s felt they don’t fit in.

Paperback. 190 Pages.

"Laura has written something that highlights the personal challenges that arise from an intersection of identities that are commonly paired, but rarely discussed in the public sphere." -- Mia Violet, author of Yes, You Are Trans Enough

Hauntingly relatable, Uncomfortable Labels is an incredibly necessary tale of living at the intersection of transgender and autistic identities. Humorously and accessibly written, Laura Kate Dale's story treads grounds scarcely discussed in memoir. A valuable addition to any library collection - personal or academic - on disability or gender issues. -- Jes Grobman, writer and sexuality educator

Laura Kate Dale works as a news editor at Kotaku UK and has written articles for The Guardian and Vice. She lives in Devon, UK.

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Customer Reviews (5.0 / 5 · 3 reviews)

Elizabeth H. ★★★★★

The way she moves from discussing societal assumptions to personal truth felt so raw and honest, it actually made me stop and reread a few passages. This memoir made me feel seen in a way I didn’t expect.

Ruby X. ★★★★★

I laughed out loud at the part where she describes trying to fit into the "neurotypical heterosexual boy" mold — it's so painfully relatable. The way she weaves together humor and raw vulnerability in the first few chapters hooked me immediately.

Scarlett ★★★★★

The author's honesty about growing up outside expected labels is so refreshing, and the opening line alone made me laugh out loud. I finished it in one sitting because the voice feels like a friend talking, not a lecture. It's the kind of memoir I'll be passing along to everyone in my life.